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|Written by Miss Smartypants|
|Monday, 07 December 2009 00:00|
Dear Miss Smartypants,
My new boyfriend is big into Christmas. His family celebrates for pretty much the entire month of December. He's planning to drag me off to parades (yes, plural), tree trimmings, and walks to check out the lights in the different neighbourhoods. The walks I don't mind so much, but I could do without the rest of it. We never made that big a deal out of holidays in my family. Sure, we did the tree and the turkey and all that, but nothing like what my guy is used to. How do I explain to him that I don't want to lose a month to celebrating little baby Jesus' birthday?
A Week is Enough For Me
Dear How 'Bout Two Days?
In his True Blood recaps, Jacob is fond of occasionally saying, "Once again, communication has saved the day." It's the last line of imaginary conversations that take place between the characters wherein their issues are resolved through simple communication. Of course, these conversations will never happen because the characters would have nothing to do without their subterfuge. Since you don't live inside a campy Southern Gothic world of vampires, shapes-shifters, and telepaths (do you?), I can't see why you can't solve your problem with communication. Tell your boyfriend that while winter walks are pretty fun, you're not really up for celebrating at the same level he does. Tell him that you're happy to do some, but not all, of the stuff he has planned. Assure him that he can and should do just as much as he has in the past, that you are happy to see him when he isn't knee deep in tinsel, and that he shouldn't feel guilty for celebrating while you are curled up with a good book. Hopefully he'll understand that not everyone takes holiday festivities as seriously as he does, and hopefully he'll remember that relationships require compromise.