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|Written by Miss Smartypants|
|Monday, 15 June 2009 06:17|
Dear Miss Smartypants,
My girlfriend and I have been together for closing in on three years now. Lately, more and more people have been asking me when we're gonna get married. I always laugh, brush it off, or change the topic. The truth is, I have no plans to propose to my girlfriend. It's not that getting married wouldn't be nice - someday - but that day isn't today. How can I effectively shut this line of questioning down?
Not Right Yet
Dear Right Here, Right Now,
It's been my experience that couples who aren't in it for the long haul usually break it off after the two year mark, so I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt in terms of your seriousness. But why are you asking me about this? This is a discussion you should be having with your lady friend. Does she want to get married? Sooner or later? Do you two have kids, either separately or together? Do you live together? Only you can know if you are ready to get married, and only you know what's holding you back. But before you start answering anyone else's questions, make sure you and your girlfriend are on the same page. As for everyone else, you're already doing the right thing: tell the person that you two have no current plans and follow it up with a topic change. If you feel like getting yours, feel free to add either "but you'll be the third to know" or "but I'm sure you'll be invited."
Watching the World Wake Up,Miss Smartypants