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|Written by Miss Smartypants|
|Monday, 31 May 2010 00:00|
Dear Miss Smartypants,
I recently went on vacation for two weeks, so I asked a friend to look in on my place while I am away. I don't have a pet, so it was pretty banal stuff: bring the mail in and water the plants. That's it. When I came back, my mailbox was crammed full, and all my plants were dead. My friend didn't stop by once. It's been a few weeks, but I'm still pretty pissed. She has a car, so it's not difficult to get to my place. What gives? What, if anything, can I say to her?
Droopy Basil is Not My Idea of a Homecoming Gift
Two weeks is a pretty long time not to stop by even once. If your friendship is otherwise intact, i.e. you don't regularly need to rely on her, then say nothing. Chances her that this flakiness is just what she's like, and you are going to have to learn to accept that in order to continue the relationship. If you think this is a friendship-ending offence, by all means, tell her off about how you asked what you feel is very little of her, and she couldn't even pony up that much. If you do want to keep being her friend but need to say something, ask her what happened. Say something along the lines of, "I was really surprised that you weren't able to check in on my place while I was away. Did something happen?" Be forewarned, however, that her response will put you squarely back in the first two options. Either she's a flake or she's a jerk. Only you can determine what you can live with.