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|Written by Roxy Munro|
|Wednesday, 21 July 2010 00:00|
While many people are obsessed with cooling off on hot summer days, I relish the heat. As someone who is perpetually cold, the hot weather is my utopia. For me, being warm is the ultimate state of comfort. And, since I'm more comfortable, I naturally feel sexier. After all, I'm not goose bumpy, my hands aren't frigid, and I find it that much easier to slip off my socks and get totally bare. Being warm is good for my libido.
I don't think it's any coincidence that words and ideas commonly used to describe sex and sexual passion speak to all things heat related: sizzling, hot, "spice up your sex life," "turn up the heat," and burning desire, to name a few. Throughout time, passion and fire have been emblematic of each other in various cultural contexts. Heat and sex are clearly connected.
While sex often generates heat for those involved -- our body temperature rises during orgasm, and sex can make us work up a sweat -- heat can be introduced into sex play to further ignite the senses. By adding some warmth to your sexual activities, you can dramatically heighten arousal, raise skin sensitivity, and trigger the release of feel good endorphins. Whether you're alone or with partner(s), warming lubricants, hot water, and hot wax are all relatively accessible ways to heat up your sex life.
Warming lube seems to have become more popular over the past few years with more varieties stocked in drugstores and in sex shops. As its name suggests, warming lube contains ingredients that result in a warming effect once it's applied to the skin.
The heating power of warming lube can make skin more receptive to stimulation, thereby enhancing any erotic rubbing or massage. The mild warmth is designed to be enjoyable by anybody, regardless of physical sex. Most warming lubes can be used like regular lubes, but they offer that extra built-in sensation. If you plan on using the lube with latex condoms, always ensure it's water-based, so that it won't break down the latex and create tears. Manufacturers offer variations of warming lubes by including additional enhancers, colours, and flavours. There's a lot of choice to help you find an option that works best for you. Since a little goes a long way, one bottle will probably last for several pleasure sessions, making it worth the nominal price.
For a similar sensation with none of the cost or stickiness, you simply have to turn on a faucet. Warm water can be used in a variety of erotic ways. Shower sex, for example, mixes wetness and warmth for a full body experience. Detachable showerheads can be targeted at genitals and erogenous zones to spray warm water with a bit of pressure, stimulating the senses in more ways than one. Shower sex may require some creativity with positioning, depending on what you're doing, which can be one of its benefits. The shower is also a great place to make use of waterproof toys.
You could also vary your oral sex routine with some hot H2O. If you're performing fellatio or cunnilingus, try drinking some hot (not scalding) water right before you go down. This trick increases leaves the mouth warmer and wetter, which won't go unnoticed.
When it comes to warming with water, the options seem endless. It's also readily available, it doesn't stain, and it's all-natural.
For the more advanced heat-lovers, dripping hot wax on a partner could bring about intense feelings of pleasure, so long as it's done safely (trips to the emergency room are neither fun nor sexy). Hot wax play is considered a form of BDSM, so, if you're looking to spice up a vanilla sex life, wax might be an option to try. There are plenty of products, tips, and techniques available to discover online or in specialty shops.
The partners involved in hot wax play should be safe and comfortable, and they should understand the proper techniques before beginning. Ordinary candles should not be used. Instead, there are specially designed candles meant for this kinky activity. Regular candles have a high melting point, so their wax will burn or scald the skin. Specialty candles, on the other hand, have a much lower melting point, making them safer to use.
These candles will still produce a slight pain sensation, which is meant to feel good. The skin will become more and more sensitive with each drop of wax. Accordingly, the receiving partner will likely start to feel more pain the longer the dripping continues. It's essential to keep checking in with your partner to see how they feel and stop when they have had enough.
Hot wax can be used on a number of places on the body. It's usually advised to begin with less sensitive areas like the shoulders and back. After that, more sensitive areas can be introduced, such as the stomach, bottom, and thighs. It is generally not recommended to use hot wax around the face or delicate areas such as the nipples, genitals, and navel. Also, keep in mind that once the wax cools, it's hard to remove from body hair and fabrics, so aim carefully!
As the thermometer rises during the summer months and people start cranking up the A/C in an attempt to cool off, remember the erotic potency that heat can bring to sexual activities. Warming lubes, hot water, and hot wax are different options that can increase sexual sensation. To make things even hotter, consider turning off that A/C and sweating it out the old fashioned way.
 Always read the instructions and take heed of any warnings.
 Showers are slippery, so exercise caution.